My resilience and not taking no for an answer has allowed me to meet unique people. I managed to get one of the very first e-mini traders to be my mentor who learned from one of the best independent traders of all time. He probably wont like me telling this story but I remember him shaking getting ready to propose to his now wife. His ice maker handle was stuck in the up position and he did not have any ice for the champagne and I had to run down to the liquor store to get more before she got home from work. I have mentors that have been on countless hours of financial news networks, opening scene of Too Big to Fail, authors, members of the CME board, Pit committee members, trader turned movie maker, friends that helped put the current president in the office, and people whose family funded things that have changed the world. All traders.
I remember picking up lunch that cost $30 and getting to keep the change on $100. I remember getting invited to lunch and not wanting to go because I did not have the money to pay for my portion and being told it didn’t matter. I remember going through a tough time and be given $500 to hang some pictures and get through the month. They knew I would not have taken the money outright. When I was basically sleeping in my car, they refused to let me trade until I had stable housing. I remember being told to take time off when my mother died. Being told that the market will always be there. I remember them telling me again the market will still be there after I realized I had not dealt with it. I remember buying lunch because it was my turn and being slipped a few hundred bucks the next day because I couldn’t afford it. I forgot how many times I have been told to stop being an idiot or you made a mistake but it will be ok or if you keep making that mistake you can’t be a trader. Countless other times when they forced me to tell them what was bothering me. My trading family knows more about me them my family and friends. We are bonded by one goal, continuing to become better. I have dealt with other peoples death, divorce, sick children, illness, and just about everything.
Trading is special, traders are special. There are many stories that will never be told how a trader helped another trader. How a trader sacrificed money for another trader. How a trader prevented another trader from blowing up or missing a mortgage payment or going hungry. One of the stories that you may have heard is when trader’s family was flying to Michigan and the plane went missing. The trader was flying up later. When he came back, after his family was safe, the pit stopped trading to clap for him. That is one of the more dramtic stories but there are many similar stories that go untold.
Yes, trading is about creating wealth but there are many times when people come before profits. Those times didn’t make great stories but that does not mean they do not exist, often. When there is money involved there are always going to be nefarious people but my experience is that traders take care of each other.
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